It happens without notice. You realize you're lost in the fog. You feel unhappy and you start to search. The matter itself doesn't matter around the universal feeling of being uncomfortable in your skin layer or feeling out of alignment. This feeling happens at midlife. It happens if you are at a cross roads or perhaps a life transition, or it happens if you are trying to build a company and you enter that black pit of confusion as you hire one guru after another to simply help rescue you from the drama. If any one of this applies for your requirements, here are five ways to avoid the drama that's keeping you stuck.
Distinguish "the drama" from "your drama."
The Drama may be the gap between what you now have and what you really want. "The drama" can also be the gap between who you actually are and who you really want to be. You're here, but you want to be there. You're single but you want to be married, or you wanted the promotion but got viewed again. You live in LA but you want to are now living in New York. You've a bachelor's degree but you'll need a master's degree and so on. The drama is nothing more than the gap that represents the exact distance between what you have and what you want. After you distinguish "the drama" from "your drama" you can turn what was perceived as a failure into the opportunity for personal growth and emotional intelligence.Dramacool
Ask yourself this question: "Where would I be without my drama?"
We often use our personal "dramas" to create excuses for where we're instead of looking for solutions to maneuver forward. For instance, I met a young man at the grocery store who said he would need to be always a fireman but he couldn't afford to attend college to have the required two-year degree therefore he was stuck in work he didn't like and he perceived himself as a failure. The only real failure he's really experiencing is getting stuck in his drama, that will be his reaction to where he's versus where he wants to be. If he were to ask the question, "Where would I be without my drama?" he would find his solution and move forward. There are many solutions, which may be found by making other choices. Obtain a loan. Obtain a grant. Go part time. Save some money. Obtain a roommate. The only real time we fail is when we give up. After you ask this question you can get over failure. At minimum you will spend less time and energy on the perceived failure.
Make a new commitment
Ask yourself what you are very committed to. Are you committed to your drama or have you been committed to happiness? Once you obtain clear on your commitment you can overcome any obstacle. You try this by filling out the blank "I'm committed to_________." You then watch every thing you say and every thing you do to see if your actions and words make with what you say you are committed to. We reveal our commitments through our choices, whether we give voice to our commitments or not. Here's an illustration: In the event that you say you are committed to having a loving marriage, but allow your spouse to abuse you then the true truth is you are not committed to a loving relationship at all. Your actions show that you are secretly committed to making sure to not rock the boat. Or maybe your real commitment is to making sure you don't make your partner mad, or you are unconsciously committed to sacrificing yourself so you can stay married at all costs. However, the commitment to "stay married" is significantly diffent compared to commitment to build a loving relationship. The requirements are different for those two commitments. The options you make can tell you what you are truly committed to.
Much of that time period we make an unconscious commitment that involves changing other people. We can't change other folks but once we get clear on our own commitment people often change anyway. The main one with the strongest commitment rules the connection and that is the best way to take full responsibility for just about any failure to turn it around for an optimistic outcome.
Utilize the "what if" technique
If you are still feeling stuck after working through the first three exercises, try the "what if" technique. If you're able to suspend judgment for starters hour you can literally change your destiny. In the event that you rely on the "law of attraction" you need to know that how you are feeling determines what you get. So the objective is to create yourself feel better about any failure you are experiencing. You must quit judging and instead reach for possibilities. You try this by saying "what if..." then you definitely try to find the positive aspects.
Examples include
· "What when there is a purpose in what just happened?"
· "What if this had to occur to ensure that something really big could happen later?"
· What am I supposed to learn?
· What if I laugh about any of it five years from now?
· What if I find a method to talk about this so other folks will find comfort
Once you see the options you start the flow and turn your failure into a huge opportunity for growth and success.
Regain your power
If you are feeling lost or confused you've lost your capacity to choose. If you want to be successful take full responsibility for your life. The manner in which you do that is to realize that most of life is made up of little choices. Yes, you will find circumstances that happen for your requirements, but in the end it is your choices giving you power or drain your energy. You gain power through making conscious choices and you lose power when you react out of an ingrained pattern or when you react due to some trigger that you haven't learned how to control.
The best way to see when someone is in a victim pattern of thinking is when you ask the question, "What are your choices," and they answer, "I don't have any." Responsibility may be the recognition of choice. Real power is available in the ability to choose. Provided that one is ruled by unconscious reaction there is no freedom to choose.
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